It once escaped the yard I have no idea how and ; she wanted to wait until it died naturally. People are humans. I am so stressed over this :( Can I put my foot down and tell him I want to live with the 2 of us without the stress of dogs? He would stop talking to me just to pick her up because she always wants him attention specially when he talks, gets close or even awknowledge me. Now you want to change that and add another? For the kitchen, you can use a baby gate in order to restrict access. But no its ok. Because thats just innocent. Eight days after moving in, and without consent, she brought a Siberian Husky puppy in and this dog is still not trained. So I dont know when I am going to truly start my life, and have those kids Ive been dreaming off and get to do fun things well. For the most part, my partner is a wonderful and loving person. Wow, sorry to hear that ANOTHER person put their dog above their human companion. The thing is that you have tried all the options and I respect that but clearly there is something very wrong with him and getting a dog sitter everytime you leave the house is giving into a tantrum. My bf has 2 goldendoodles and in my opinion, they are the most annoying dog breed of all because they are hyper, crazy energetic and tons of nervous energy). Idk what to do or say anymore.. I just dont know what to do. I need advice! I dont think a dog should snarl or growl at anyone, much less one of his masters. So I was unaware of the relationship. I went into the relationship not thinking my pets would be a problem,but since he has virtual power over the household, he has decided that they have to go. And if youre the one resenting your partners pet, be clear about what you need to feel better. Why do you want to violate someone elses free will? IT tried biting our baby!!!!!! Not him. He never ever listens and never obeys! My partner is so wonderful she had already done research on how to make our future home livable for me when I expressed my concern. Because that dog doesnt listen at all! At the beginning, I was cool with the idea of the dog, he is placid, relaxed but at times, can be annoying (begs at you all the time), will jump on the bed and lounge when Im not there ect. If it werent for having a child with him Id be off out of there as soon as possible. Its their HUMANS that I blame! ?!$&@!?! I dont know what to do anymore! In approximately three weeks I am leaving my four plus year toxic marriage. Dont obsess or turn them into humans and call them the babies. If you managed to do that, good for you and the dog! My Shi-poo was only about 1.5 yrs old. The dog is also due for a bath as he has farttles (fecal excrement that clings to the fur immediately surrounding the anus) hanging off his rear, but she will not bathe him. Husband has been violent 2x in the 13 years and now again recently. I just wish he would be nice and not threaten to throw them out the door when Im not here. When we were dating the cat lived at home with him. But since we brought her home, I have had doubts and regretted it. He rarely listens to my fianc. Husband told me years ago about his best friend (human) that I would be gone before his friend, as I didnt want his friend in my house. The counselor told me I was jealous. After being married 6 months I realized he was married to his dog and I was the third wheel. I would like to contribute with my personal story about mistakes that we make when we enter a relationship being a pet lover, but also give a word of compassion to those who find themselves in the same situation that I do. And building a strong relationship with another person requires a tremendous investment of time but can yield tremendous rewards in the long run, rewards that can never be realized with an animal. It wasnt an overly-excited dog, just liked to chill and sit and be with us, which was great. For starters we agreed no dogs on the couch as it is my couch from the start, we also agreed that she will sleep in a kennel. Allowing your kids to play with such a dog is just dangerous, and you need to realize that. How is the lives and wellbeing of YOUR children less important than an animal?!? Im not allowed to touch her without she makes some kind of complaint about pain or period issues, no sex since i had a versectomy as she wanted to come off the pill. 138 Sponsored by Spokeo Are you worried that your partner is talking to someone? As for the accidents, its no wonder the poor dog is stressed from not only having to hold his urine for so long, but his environment. I think it helped to hear from someone else not in the relationship how ridiculous he was being basically choosing the dog over your significant other. In real life however, and especially in terms of relationships between humans, there is no quick-acting elixir or love potion to fix relationship woes. I have a dog as well, and like you, I hate having fur everywhere. Lots of hugsxxx. He will not compromise at all on this issue. Kick her and the dog out. i have severe allergies and most importantly, i do not want them constantly running in the house and jumping on furniture. And almost NO pet owners take the time to harness that energy or train their dog accordingly. Its better to vacuum the entire house at least once a week. My pup does chew but not on her things like she use to do. Sometimes.its not the pet. Hes adamant that we will never own an indoor pet. It blows my mind how many people dump their pets for a bad relationship. He will be terrible un-happy if he gets rid of them but as I said Im totally unhappy with them being at home. You are most likely just wasting your time in that relationship (or should I say what relationship?). Sorry but your problems are just going to escalate !! When you said it doesnt shed, I wondered. With that being said I lost all patience and I could never make her give up her dog so in my case (Not suggesting you do the same) I left!!! Even when I came home from grocery shopping, he would already try to steal items out of my grocer bags!! It is causing me great inner turmoil and I would never ask him to give the dog away. And this is normal? Now lets talk about my dog, hes house trained and not aggressive at all. Dogs can be wonderful pets, but people dont realize the WORK that goes into having a well adjusted, healthy dog. My last dog was a Moodle, (1/2 Maltese 1/2 Poodle). I have a lab, who has had obedience training. He says its all shes known her whe life and so now Im just mad at them both all the time. The moment I say something about the behaviors, my wife instantly defends the dog and states that its my fault this dog is like this. I was livid, and literally hurt, but didnt want my then girlfriends dog euthanized. She did say she was open to having me help train him to break the pattern, but I still feel like shes just gotten too comortable with the convenience of dropping her dog off at her parents house. Thought if I could help train, it would turn out okay. I was never happier to get an animal off my back. The dog ate some wet cat food and had an allergic reaction, so she had to be on steroids. Which she refuses. The dog can then help you raise the kids, pay the bills, do chores etc. afterall, her behaviour with her dog is not right anyway. Your husband had to take you into consideration over any dog! She does only what he has allowed all this time because of how his past relationships have gone. its driving me crazy, and im fearing it will be too difficult for me to tolerate, soon. As soon as we leave he destroys the house. There is no way you need to treat an animal like that. Its unfortunate and I wish I could fix him.. but I cant. And beau can sense it. I lied to my spouse that I was crying for another reason so another dog fight did not occur. (and the current caretakers dont want to keep them, they are also tired with all the pee and poop and hairs, so thats not an option). His mouth was literally on my sons face. Dogs need to be walked daily, given affection, be able to spend time outdoors and also with its family. The breeder offered a replacement, so that was fine- instead- against my wishes, he comes home with TWO pups, refuses to take one back, he and son beg me to let both stay, we go to training classes, but my husband will not use the tools of hhe class to train at home- it fell on me; with TWO pups to train, because i am not as cold harded as my family thinks i am, i bust my butt trying to train and house break TWO pups now, only to have my Husband undermind my hardwork and ignore their disobedience, and worse- praise and cuddle the cuteness when they mess up. My wife and I have a small dog who is biting our young children. And no offense but if you had your fur baby BEFORE the fiance. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is one of several types of personality disorders. If he took the time to seek a trainer, and learn how to maintain a dog, i would support him. HOWEVER..my partner has suffered a brain injury and cant help but whine about and insult my dog. I didnt want him on furniture which he has done and not in our room. He walks the dog on one of those telescoping leashes which makes us difficult to walk the dogs together (my dog stays to my left at all times), and last weekend at the park a little girl was running and didnt see the leash and almost fell. You should come up with a new idea every day because this learning process never ends, and you will see great success as time goes. Life will stop if IT cant be involved in everything between us. This has greatly bothered me. I want nothing to do with dogs. Im ruined for life. But also, I dont want to resent the dog because of his actions because that isnt fair to her. Its grose! I feel selfish if i ask that he takes the cat back to the shelter. I am so sorry that so many are having a terrible time with their pets and partners. So when you find yourself at the beginning, just give hope a chance to float up. Im really thinking I need to end this relationship because we argue about Beau all the time. If he doesnt get food when were eating he will bark at him till he gets it. Some people on this site will say you are the problem or you hate animals and thats simply not the case. Because when he finally gets in bed with me..I get good night I love you and not even cuddle me for 2 minutes and roll over and sleep. I met my husband in 2003, I didnt have a pet then, but very soon after we started dating I acquired a rescue cat called Oscar. But, there are enough anecdotes, both here and buried in other articles, that show dog fanaticism like any fanaticism is unhealthy. OR, if you are out of this area, inquire about a telephone or e-Lesson Remove the dog from your house. There is a deeper, underlying issue here. I told him it was me or the cat. Yeah plenty of men like well behaved dogs that arent trained by women who worship the dog like ot walks on water. Id guess the number is zero. She would say shes going to adhere to boundaries so we could all live in harmony but would go against that shortly afterwards so we would always butt heads because she would never keep her word. Jake- I was a woman, just remarried, deeply hurt by my husband whom treated his female Labrador with more value, more affection, more it seemed, everything than he did his new bride. Me." Their handsome long-haired dog was fed prime cuts of meat, brushed and hugged frequently, and taken. A dog or a cat is not important as much as your spouse. You need to either leave the boyfriend, or give the dog to a family or owner who will care for the dog and not mistreat it. She would take that as how much people LOVE bulldogs but realistically, she dressed them up in clothes as we walked! Anything helps Thank you. Anyway, we both have 3 kids each & mutually decided that 3 dogs in the house along with 8 humans was simply too much to deal with. She cuddles or snuggles or whatever you want to call it any chance she gets. Unlike your family your dog never disagrees with you, no matter how wrong you are, because it has no idea what you are talking about. when the dog died which really upset me as i am a massive dog lover but he replaced him with another male even though i cannot deal with marking in the house and every darn thing in the garden covered with weewee , i have ferrets in a large shed and run but we have a gate infront of them or the dog will wee on them so he wees on the lock instead so i have to open that go indoors wash my hands before i can get a cuddle of my ferrets . googling the heck out of the history of the breed most positive way to get result when disciplined. He has arthritis really bad where you can see he is in discomfort and even when he drinks or eats, he cant stand up perfectly straight. You can still love the crap out of your dogs and maintain a respectful dog owner relationship. Thank you. I am greatful that many people think like myself and know that animals are not people. He gets crazy! Could it be that it is really not as bad as you describe since you are still living there with him and his pets? I feel trapped in my own home, every evening and weekend I find myself hiding in my room while he cuddles his dog because I dont want to start another dog fight because it never goes anywhere. I find this very unsanitary. She sheds 24/7 and no this is not an exaggeration. I didnt get any attention except when he asked whats for dinner. At the beginning he was sooooo good with my dog. Ok I get that, so I tell him where an ear plug that way we can address the barking together more effectivly. The same paws they use to trample on s*** and p*** are the same paws they walk all over your bed with. He has said I have to get rid of my dog. If thats not what you wanted to hear then alternatively, you could just come home with two puppies one day (because he said you couldnt get A DOG) and tell him to deal with it.. I do love dogs very much but my apt wont allow pets. Eventually I get the, OK, lets talk about something else now, or, this is upsetting me; I really dont wanna talk about this. So once that happens there isnt much I can say or do. You are being reasonable. He did not cross that line, but he was definitely in love with his dog. THIS IS ALL SOO WRONG. No begging no bed or furniture sharing. This is keeping me very busy the last days and I feel like one dog has to go if I want to keep my relationship. I cannot sleep with my bf, or watch tv with him (both dogs get on the couch between us if there is any affection), cannot have a meal without incessant begging, cannot travel or have fun day-trips out of town because he wont leave the dogs. Even to the point that while pregnant I was down on my hands and knees cleaning the bathroom floor where he and his son pee in the floor. You can be confident the vast majority of sane humans would feel the same dogs are not babies, theyre animals sure, some can be cute and cuddly, but they have to have boundries, and whilst some of you dog owners may choose to overlook these things, the facts remain that having them sleep in your bedroom does present health and cleanliness issues, even for the most tolerant people: the smell, shedding, drooling, farting, fleas, mites.. not to mention clean clothes and carpets covered in dog hair.. yuk! Yet most of the time something will always get in the way. People make that mistake. No, you dont have to see your boyfriends dog as a human. I feel like the interloper. Weve been going strong for a couple of years. the dog sleeps indoors she has her own bed but will constantly climb on our bed at night. 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